Being P.E.R-sonal in your relationships


I think that sometimes we can overcomplicate relationships. When I say relationships, this refers to all types of relationships. Whether we want to be or not, we are somehow always in relationship with people.  


In life, it can be so easy to find something to get upset about and cut people off.  However, my various life experiences have taught me the importance of bearing with people.  Sometimes this is easier to do than other times.  But when there is a genuine love for the other person, I am willing to navigate difficult times with them.  


I think that sometimes we forget that when we are in relationships with other people, there are two different people involved. These two people have different values, perceptions, beliefs, etc that make who they are as a person.  However, I do believe that exercising three key qualities can help us as we are in relationship with others. Cultivating patience, empathy, and respect in our relationships can help us to form and maintain healthy relationships, or at-least maintain our dignity. 


Patience





Patience is more than just waiting for someone to return a phone call, reply to a message or to arrive as promised.  I believe that patience is hopeful and it endures.  It does not give up.  I think that sometimes we give up on people too easily.  Patience acknowledges another person’s flaws but also realizes that we are both a work in progress. When we are patient with others, we remind them of how much we believe in and value them.  


Now, I don’t believe in enduring abuse from others or dealing with individuals who refuse to accept accountability for their actions.  I think at some point, we have to cut off those unhealthy relationships.  However, there are other times when we could be a little more patient with others.  After all, if it is the relationship that we truly value, the other things will work themselves out in time. 


Patience could involve having open discussion about what it is that’s bothering you so that the relationship can move forward.  


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