Javacia Harris-Bowser recently hosted a goal setting session on last week. Prior to attending this goal setting session, I had been contemplating what my word would be for 2021. And sure enough, Javacia asked us what our word was for the year during the goal-setting session!
My word for 2020 was LEAN. The goal was to lean more into my spirituality and more into the important relationships in my life. I’d say that it has been a struggle on both parts. This year, I have felt myself drifting in my spiritual life. I have been a little reluctant with embracing new friendships and frustrated with maintaining old friendships. All in all, my faith in God is still intact. As I close this year, I still have the friendships I started at the beginning of the year as well as some new ones.
Back to my opening statement, I had been thinking about my word. And, my word for 2021 is TIME!
Time is such a valuable commodity. I have been guilty of either not valuing the time given to me or thinking that I need more time. But, I only have today. We have all heard the saying “Carpe diem” or “Seize the day,” but the complete saying is “carpe diem quam minimum credula postero.” This saying means “Seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the next one.”
Anywho, this quote summarizes how I feel about time at this point. COVID-19 has shown us how tomorrow is not predictable or promised to any of us. I see that I am not in control of my time.
None of us know what 2021 has in store for us. At best, we can set goals and take actions to reach our goals, but, the future is unpredictable. We must make the most of the opportunities that are presented to us. This applies to goal setting and making time for the people and things in life that are important to us.
2020 has shown me that I have time to:
Connect with others. I am a person who walks fast, and I often zoom in on what is important at the moment and block out all other things. This might look like me telling you how cute your shoes are rather than saying hello when I see you. Can you say socially awkward? LOL. As a result of this, I miss opportunities to connect with people. I’m getting better at this though. I was at work earlier in the week and passed by a coworker who I always pass by. I often think that if I stop and talk to her for a few moments, I won’t do what I need to do on time. One day I passed by her and stopped and talked for a few moments. I could get to my destination even though I stopped to talk to her for a few moments. She felt appreciated, and we were able to connect for a few moments. Or, someone comes to mind, and I think that if I reach out to this person, I won’t be able to do what I need to do. That is selfish. We, as humans, are meant for connection. We are not meant to be on the go all the time. I’m learning to slow down and be intentional about connecting with others.
Set and reach goals. Mind you, when it comes to working my 9-5, I get things done because I know it’s expected of me. But when it comes to my personal life, I tend to struggle with not setting goals but accomplishing them! I’ve set goals and been a part of some challenges to help keep me focused. I am so great at writing goals and creating vision boards, but the follow-through has been a struggle. These past few months, I have been able to set goals and stick with them. Well, I’ve been able to stick to some of my goals. I completed #bloglikecrazy and went hiking four times during November. During December, I wanted to blog more, but that didn’t happen. One of my proudest moments of 2020 has been submitting an essay to Reckon South! I later learned that the editor changed their mind about what kind of article they wanted for December 2020. (I made that essay into into a blog post.) I’m glad that I had a desire to do this and followed through with it. A year ago, I would have talked myself out of doing that. And, I’m looking forward to facilitating a lunch and learn during January. This will be my first virtual lunch and learn. Someone who knows me so well recently gifted me the most beautiful notebook. I’ve been using this notebook to write down my goals, dreams and aspirations for the new year.
Rest and refresh. I have been guilty of always being on the go. And, 2020 has forced me to slow down and rest. I had goals planned for December, and I’ve allowed myself to be ok with not reaching my goals for the month. I’ve prioritized rest during December. I’ve decided to step back from social media. I said I was on a social media fast but this time away has honestly been more about me. I have been able to get some good sleep. I feel refreshed and I am looking forward to the new year.
These lessons will set the tone for how I will maximize my time in the new year.
What about you? What is your word for 2021?