Conquer, don’t mask

I am convinced that fear is something that everyone faces. Especially right now. We are in such uncertain times. We’ve been in a pandemic for most of this year, and currently, we are in the midst of a presidential election. In addition to those things, we are also dealing with racial injustice, global climate issues, unexpected deaths, our issues, and other folks issues.  If you add all those things together, it can be overwhelming and scary.  

To give ourselves a “sense” of safety, we often mask our fears.  We hide (I’ve hidden) behind so many “masks” – appearances, accomplishments, and even associations.  These things might be comforting for a short time, but they don’t help with the issues that we struggle with at our core.  

Instead of masking our fears, I think we need to work and be intentional about conquering our fears. 

Here are some ways that I am conquering my fears:

Acknowledge the fear. I think sometimes we deal with anxiety by acting like it is not there. But there is so much power in identifying fear.  Again, I believe that giving in to fear leads to calamity. When we embrace fear, we are deciding as to how this fear will affect us. We can acknowledge our fear by journaling.  You don’t have to have a fancy “journal” to journal.  It can be a fifty cents notebook. The purpose of the journal is to write out your thoughts.

Increase your knowledge. A lot of times, we fear because of what we don’t know.  However, learning about something will help us to make an informed decision.  Once we have the information that we need, we can choose what we will do. A couple of posts back, I talked about my fear of public speaking.  I signed up for Toastmasters to help me with this.  I am still working on this, but Toastmasters gave me a sense of confidence.    

Maintain your mental health.  I mean, you don’t wait until your engine stops working on getting an oil change in your car.  You provide it with regular maintenance.  It is the same when it comes to our mental health.  I believe in therapy.  Therapists receive a variety of skills and techniques that can help us to overcome trauma, process, and develop skills to navigate life. We do not have to be on the verge of an emotional breakdown to see a therapist.  Go here to locate a therapist.

Additionally, there are so many support groups online that are led by licensed professionals.  Being around others who have a shared experience is so empowering. I prefer 1:1 therapy, but some people benefit from both individual and group or just group.  You can google “therapy groups” in your area to locate support groups.  The website that I listed above also has information for therapy groups. 

Be balanced in your perspective. While it is essential to have a positive outlook, I believe in being rational. I think it is more important to have a balanced attitude.  This way, when situations don’t turn out the way that we want them to, we won’t be so caught off guard. Having a balanced perspective can involve praying and reading, and meditating on scriptures. We can try to create positive thoughts in our minds, but we need to have a power source to base those thoughts.  Meditating on scripture and prayer helps to give our thoughts power. 

Look around for inspiration and motivation. Is there someone who is doing the thing that you want to do?  A lot of times, we look at others are jealous because of what we see them doing.  However, we can use others as our motivation.  When I feel that that green envy rearing its head, I think to myself, what can I glean from this person?  Instead of desiring to be in someone’s shoes, we can learn from them and even cheer them on.  I remember the time that I did a monologue on Mary McCleod Bethune.  I had to learn about her life and the kind of person she was to bring the monologue to life. I enjoy learning about other people’s journeys of how they have overcome.  It truly inspires me. There is value in finding motivation in others, whether they have gone one before us or are living amongst us.  

Do it scared!  Yes, you read that write.  There are some things that I might be afraid to do, but rather than trying to get all the facts, I just have to decide in my mind to do it scared.  I recently went on my solo hiking trip. I was afraid, but I got through it. ☺️

I hope that this blog post encouraged you.  Please feel free to share with others who you think might benefit from this.  

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